tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1894963858437715086.post1386453146836496853..comments2013-07-18T05:06:01.073-07:00Comments on Reboot My Life: Today was a weird dayEnzohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00281836158603095686noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1894963858437715086.post-12083701334240341102011-03-28T10:20:51.875-07:002011-03-28T10:20:51.875-07:00Seconding what Craig mentions, you're not obli...Seconding what Craig mentions, you're not obligated any more than you would be if she was a completely new woman that you needed to decide, "stay with" or "not". By her actions (and your description of the non-marriage, now dissolved), she's a single woman, you're a single man- so if it should come up, evaluate your choices as an 11.5 year-old-older, mature adult. (then tell her buzz off. oops, that may have been mean, but still, I feel for ya).<br /><br />As to your question, "what do I use my freedom for?", you'll answer that when you need to. In the meantime, God knows what He wants you to learn, and why- if you can, anyway, trust in HimSailorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01439394316761968708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1894963858437715086.post-7898875353469352722011-03-28T09:03:53.034-07:002011-03-28T09:03:53.034-07:00I have heard of that kind of 'can you help me?...I have heard of that kind of 'can you help me?' thing happening fairly commonly between exes (heck, it's not terribly uncommon for exes to make booty calls to each other). Of course, it doesn't seem quite fair that she can break the court order as she pleases, but you certainly don't dare to (be careful that she can't use your response to her distress call against you. . .)<br /><br />At this point, as you say, you're not under any obligation one way or the other - either to walk away, or to take her back if she asks. Taking this post together with the following one, if you never had a valid marriage in the first place, your options are open, and if you never should have married each other in the first place, here's your chance to set that particular wrinkle in the space-time continuum right. On the other hand, even if you weren't validly married for those 11+ years, you're not exactly nothing to each other, either (having made two kids together being Exhibit A for that hypothesis). . .<br /><br />So I don't think there are any particular 'demands' on you, one way or the other, in terms of right-vs-wrong. . .Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.com